How to Overcome Female Orgasm Problems -
How to Orgasm?

Here’s a question that has scientists and sexual health specialists confused and unable to answer categorically:
 

If sexual pleasure is the evolutionary guarantee that males and females will mate and procreate, then why isn’t orgasm for the woman an automatic result of sexual intercourse as it is for the man?

According to recent research, female orgasm at the conclusion of intercourse helps to ensure pregnancy. The woman's vaginal contractions during orgasm help propel sperm toward her eggs, thereby assisting in fertilization of the egg, resulting in conception and pregnancy. But, it is correct to say that female orgasm is not an essential requirement for procreation, while male orgasm and ejaculation are primary requirements. 

In the past, female orgasm has traditionally been considered to be nice if it occurs, but not really necessary for human sexual relations. While this may be basically true in the context of reproductive sex, it is definitely not true in the context of recreational sex or of sex as an expression of love and emotional bonding.

If we consider the needs of human males and females for sexual intimacy and bonding, and for mutual pleasure and happiness, then female orgasm becomes every bit as important as orgasm for the male. The fact is that women are as capable as men of experiencing extraordinary sexual pleasure and fulfillment. It is also a fact that women who regularly experience orgasms in their sexual relationships are far more likely to live happy, contented, well-adjusted and healthy lives than those who do not experience climax with their sexual partners.

The Highly Sexual Woman

 

There are, of course, many women who have no problems in reaching orgasm through sexual intercourse. For these women, the question of how to orgasm does not arise. Such women are sexually uninhibited, enjoy frequent sex with one or more partners.  Most of us know women who talk about reaching a climax every time they have sex, irrespective of positions or techniques or who the partner is. And, their orgasms are claimed to be always mind-blowing! Though we may be sceptical about such claims, the fact is that it’s true – there are women who love sex, get it frequently and enjoy powerful orgasms regularly .

If there were no problems of hormonal imbalance, physical tiredness, emotional disconnect, traumatic past or stressful present, most women would be super-sexual. All women have the inherent ability to experience extreme sexual pleasure and orgasm. Yet, in real life, very large numbers of women are unable to climax through sexual relations with their partners and, therefore, remain sexually unfulfilled.

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Psychological Factors in Female Sexuality

 

Female sexuality and sexual functioning are more affected by psychological factors than that of the male. While men do sometimes have problems caused by anxiety about their sexual abilities or performance, generally most men are not significantly affected by psychological factors in their sexual arousal and functioning. Women, on the other hand, generally need emotional closeness and security for proper sexual response and arousal. For most women, there is a wide range of emotional needs to be satisfied if they are to experience satisfying sex. At the same time, female hormonal patterns and balances can change drastically during different phases of their lives.

 

Emotional Connections and Relationship Issues

 

Most women need emotional connections with their partners for satisfactory sexual relations. However, there are many variations in this respect amongst different women and it would be incorrect to generalise. To oversimplify this question, one can divide sexually fulfilled women into two categories:

1. Those who are in relationships in which their needs for emotional intimacy and security are met.
2. Those who have been able to overcome the link between sex and emotion and, therefore, are able to enjoy sex without concern for emotional connections. They do not need to ask "how to orgasm?"

Those in the first group are fortunate to be in relationships with partners who satisfy their  emotional needs most of the time, so that sexual activity becomes a pleasurable and satisfying experience.

Those in the second group just simply love sex and enjoy it, without the need for emotional connections. But, even these women find sex far more satisfying with partners they actively like than with those to whom they are indifferent.

For both categories, there are now new opportunities for greater sexual pleasure, more satisfying sex and powerful, fulfilling orgasms.

 

Sexual Problems within Healthy Relationships

 

Sometimes there are sexual difficulties even within otherwise healthy relationships, creating a total absence of sexual pleasure and orgasms for the woman. In such cases, one or more of the following factors need to be considered:

• Traumatic sexual experience in the past 
  
  All around the world, a distressingly high number of women are sexually molested or abused. Some of these women are able to work back to normal sexual attitudes either by themselves or with appropriate counselling. But, for others, the pain refuses to go away and severely obstructs their development of normal sexual behaviour and, at times, distorts their sexual responses into unexpected patterns.
  
  Best recommendation:
  In such situations, soft, easy, gentle approaches are needed, together with an acceptance and understanding of unexpected sexual attitudes.
  
  Men in relationships with such traumatised women:
  You need to pile on the love, the care, the gentle softness, and the total concern about her needs. At the same time, be ready to accept the possibility that she may want to explore the world of pain and pleasure, of forcible and violent sex. Through it all, try to understand her needs, enjoy the sexual activity, and reinforce your relationship of love.
  
  Women in this situation:
  Do not fear the experiences of the past and try to unconditionally accept the person you are now. If there are times when you find your normal sexual responses blocked by  the unpleasant memories of past experiences, explore those things on your own. Take your time with yourself, experiment with masturbation, use a sexual stimulant, like Vigorelle, and openly embrace whatever makes you feel good.
   

• Hormonal Disruptions or Imbalance
  
  Pregnancy, childbirth, the normal aging process, menopause and other health issues can cause an imbalance or disruption of hormones that can obstruct normal sexual response and arousal. Your health care provider can help you address the underlying causes for hormonal disruption and, in many instances, may prescribe hormone treatments.
  
  Even when under medical treatment for hormone-related problems, women can benefit from certain natural, herbal aids:
  
        Provestra, a herbal supplement for women that helps restore the normal balance of female hormones and significantly boosts sex drive and libido.
         Vigorelle, a sexual stimulant cream for topical application to the clitoris-vagina area, that contains selected herbal ingredients which give a rapid boost in sexual response and arousal when applied to the genitals.
       

• Relationship issues
  
  When a loving relationship goes wrong, the sexual relationship also fails. For women, the sexual connection is inextricably linked with love and romance. So, when love is compromised, her sexual responsiveness and arousal also suffers.
  
  Men, who truly understand male-female relationships, know that they must keep their woman’s sexual desires and sex drive alive to keep her attracted to them. If, as a man, you detect an indifference to sex on the part of your female partner, do all you can to keep the love and romance alive, and the sexual spark as intense as before.

Products that Enhance Female Sexual Arousal and Orgasm

Here are suggestions that will help keep the sexual relationship on a high, the sexual spark intensely bright and show you how to orgasm!

      Vigorelle female sexual enhancement cream – a clitoris stimulant cream increases sensitivity to sexual stimulation and enhances female sexual response and climax.

      Provestra – A herbal, all-natural, supplement for women that nourishes the entire reproductive system, and dramatically enhances libido and sex drive and sexual response.

 

Some Final Thoughts

Apart from all that we have discussed above, it is very rewarding for a woman to take charge of her own sexuality. This can include any or all of the following:

• Sexual fantasies are good for sexual excitement and any fantasy  is ok, irrespective of the situation or circumstances you fantasize about.
• Any way you reach orgasm is fine, as long as no one else is hurt. This includes masturbation, which can be a major restorative for declining sexual desire.
• Anything that can enhance sexual pleasure, such as sex toys, erotica, fantasies or whatever -  is fine.

Keep the Sexual Relationship Alive by:

• Frank, uninhibited, communication:
  What feels good? Women should indicate - either with words, or by physically guiding their partners -  about which parts of her body she wants him to caress, which movements and pressures and techniques feel best.  Men can be sexually bold and creative – and then carefully watch her responses. Try new techniques, new locations, be creative, be uninhibited.
• Openness: Women, be frank when things go wrong – and say so in a clear way, without blaming anyone. Tackle the problem as partners, to resolve the issues together.

Both partners can then revel in the knowledge that they know how to orgasm, how to attain the exhilarating experience of amazing sex, intense  female orgasms and mutual fulfilment in this most profound of human experiences.